Today you will see posts about couples expressing love for their partners, single’s appreciation day, self-love, anti-valentine, bitterness, the demystification of side chicks or, what ever! Now, I am not a fan of the celebration of Valentine but, I am an admirer of glorifying and celebrating love, especially black love. In summary, I do not believe that Valentines day is the one day individuals should express their utmost gratitude or appreciation for their partner, but, I digress.
While we celebrate a day of love we should, also, recognize single-hood.
Close your eyes, I’ll wait. Take a second and envision #BlackGirlMagic. Now open them. What ever you thought it was, erase it. If you didn’t find her, here she is:
#BlackGirlMagic is Nola Darling, honey.
Dipped in honey, sprinkled with chocolate, dawning tantalizing honey-brown eyes, as I watch the eccentric, earth-toned Nola Darling, I can only envision my spirit animal #BlackGirlMagic. Nola Darling, you are so me and I am so you. Hello, my “sex positive, polyamorous, pansexual” hyper-sexual twin!
As I release my Snapchat question and answers on some “the truth must be spoken” type shit, the universe and my snapchatters, led me to the 2017 Sex in the City, She’s Gotta Have It. So, Sese, Antwan, and the many spectators who put me on, this is for you.
Post major release of emotions: rape-ish, death of a loved one, end of a relationship
Post major release of positive emotions acceptance: offers, graduation, celebration of single-hood, start of graduate school,
In light of the recent mass sexual assault, sexual harassment, and assault cases near the end of 2017, I sit and listen to my peers curiosity about the sudden “trend”. I attend to their theories of disbelief as I feed my own. My views were similar to their own, until, I saw She’s Gotta Have It.
As I binge watch the Netflix Original in one sitting, I am impressed by the story of a black woman without the after taste of the male-interpretation. In her assault (2017), as light as it may appear, viewers witness a catalyst of negative emotions transformed to her bold, feminist, artistic release. Similarly, the catalyst of sexual assault cases on the media may be the eye-opener for the many women hiding behind their truths.
Speaking of truths, Nola Darling, I have to define “assault” for the readers. Specifically, “sexual assault”.
Oh no! *inserts rolling eyes emoji*. Not another hate, shaming blog post about Haitian men, Black men, or men in general.
Well, you have dodged a bullet because you are absolutely right! It is another post about men. Although, I would not place it in the “shaming of men” category. This post is, more of, a thanks to my exes because I will never let another man:
1. Underestimate my worth.
Throughoutsocial media I see individuals exclaiming “know your worth”. I, unfortunately, overlooked the overall meaning of this trending phrase. In my continuous search for “the” one, “the” only relationship, I realized that I try my hardest to prove my worth to men who are not paying attention. Continue reading “I Will Never Let Another Man…”